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There are no right or wrong answer with this self esteem assessment. It was designed by members of the National Association for Self Esteem. It is a tool  to help you evaluate your self esteem. Next to each question is a Self Esteem Enhancer, which should be read after you answer the assessment question. You can begin  the tool with the questions on this page or do the ones on this page first. The order does not matter. Make sure you complete the questions on both pages. 

Self Esteem Assessment

Self Esteem Assessment

  • 4. If my wants and needs are different from those of others I am likely to…

    a. Give up and give in. I'd accommodate.

    b. Say, "My way or the highway!" I argue until I get my way.

    c. Try to avoid them altogether. Why bother trying to get my needs on the table. Mine aren't important, and neither are theirs.

    d. Create a win/win.

Self Esteem Enhancer

Your wants, needs and self-worth are as important as those of anyone else. However, that doesn't mean others will automatically respect them. If you silence your own voice, others will not know what you want or need. It's up to you to claim your needs as important and learn how to respectfully assert yourself. With practice, you'll be amazed at how this will become second nature.

  • 5. When you think about the greater purpose of your life what do you tend to think?

    a. I feel like I am drifting. I am ashamed to admit it but I don't know what I should be doing or even where to start. 

    b. I have a general picture of what I want to do and what I am capable of creating for my life. 

    c. I am on course with my purpose, and know I am capable of creating whatever my heart desires for my life.

Have you ever wondered "Why am I here?" or "What am I supposed to do in life?" If so, you're in very good company. This is one of the most fundamental life decisions you can make. Your purpose is about what you plan to achieve and the kind of person you want to be. Your character and your habits will lead you to be healthier, happier and more successful. What are you good at? What do you really enjoy? These are two good places to look when you're trying to decide your direction. Your life has the potential to be so much more than you might imagine. The most important thing is that your life has meaning for you

  • 6. When I make a commitment to myself I often tend to…

    a. Break it before the end of the hour, I am terrible at following up on my self-goals.

    b. I do it with hesitation and fear because I so desperately hate disappointment. 

    c. Stick to it with conviction and await the rewards that I believe will come from it.

If you've ever heard the phrase, your word is your bond, you'll understand why honoring commitments is an aspect of healthy self-esteem. A commitment is a pledge; and a pledge is a guarantee. When you make a commitment to yourself or others you're putting your integrity on the line. As you learn to demonstrate that you can be counted on to do what you say, you build your self-esteem and your credibility at the same time. That way you and others will know that "you walk your talk."

  • 7. When you talk to yourself (you know, that little voice in your head) what does it tend to sound like? 

    a. Very critical and negative. I often put myself down and beat myself up emotionally. 

    b. Fairly confident and supportive, but I still have those days when my self-talk holds back my true greatness. 

    c. Extremely confident and helpful. I have learned to become my own best friend and weed out my limiting thoughts from the empowering ones.

If you're like most people you say things to yourself you wouldn't tolerate coming from another person. Negative self-talk scares us out of taking positive risks so we can avoid failure. Here's how you can start to build positive, self-empowering inner dialogues. First, recognize your negative self-talk. Next, interrupt the pattern; tell yourself "Erase that. Here's what I really mean!" The last step is to give yourself a positive instruction, like "I can do this. I'm up to the task," or "Let's try it on for size." The more you're able to replace your negative self-talk with positive, the more your self-esteem and self-confidence will grow.

  • 8.How do you often react to what other people say about you? 

    a. I take things personally, and if I think someone is saying something negative about me I take it too much to heart. 

    b.I get defensive and often respond with an equal, if not greater, negative reaction to them. 

    c.I value what others have to say about me -- but honestly -- I know who I am, and other peoples' opinions have no bearing on my self-worth.

When you put more weight on your own judgement than on others' it's easier to keep their words in perspective without becoming defensive. Your strong sense of self-worth allows you to maintain your power and still hear what others have to say without feeling bad about yourself.

Questions one to four of the self esteem assessment are continued on this page.

We also suggest that you take some time and fill out the Self Esteem Quiz that is tied to our activities list and lessons.   This is designed to help you build positive self esteem in specific areas.

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