How Do You Define Self Esteem?

Self Esteem is reflection of what you think and how you feel about yourself. Self-esteem is the experience of being capable of meeting life's challenges and being worthy of happiness.

Sometimes people confuse self esteem and self confidence. Self confidence is how you feel about something you do. While self esteem is how you feel about yourself. For example you can have confidence about the way you play a game of golf or tennis but this does not mean you feel good about yourself.

Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you will ever have.

Do you treat yourself with respect?

Are you supportive of yourself, like you would be to a best friend?

Do you nourish yourself?

If not, you may be suffering from low self esteem. The National Association of Self Esteem lists these as signs of low self esteem.

1. You think about yourself a lot and analyze why you are the way you are.

2. You are stressful and fearful of adversity. You may be alienated from and in opposition with parents, caregivers, and authority figures. in general.

3. You do not smile easily. You may have a negative, hopeless view of yourself, your family and society.

4. You are tired a lot. You may be unwilling or unable to set and achieve your goals.

5. You stay to yourself. You prefer being alone to meeting new people or being with others.

6. You keep people away. You have trouble making and keeping friends.

7. You avoid looking into the eyes of others. You have difficulty with genuine trust, intimacy, and affection.

8. You refuse to take risks. You are needy and may have a tendency to cling or to fake intimacy and affection.

9. You create negative effects. And in extreme cases you can be antisocial and perhaps violent.

10. Things others cannot observe include: You talk to yourself negatively, you do not tell the truth or keep your word, you do not forgive yourself or others. You may lack empathy, compassion and remorse.


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