What Are You For Giving? (continued)
Susyn Reeve, M.Ed.

Ask yourself, “Have I ever really solved problems from this state of mind?” I certainly haven’t. So during this month, of Thanksgiving in the United States, declare what you are for giving and then notice if your thoughts and feelings are a reflection of what you desire. If not, become aware of what you’re thinking, and if it doesn’t support your desires, then make-up and focus on a new thought that does.

Forgiving is not condoning. I have repeatedly heard clients tell me that if they forgive someone for a past hurt that they will be condoning the unacceptable behavior of the other person. This became so very evident during a conversation I had with a workshop participant. She told me that her husband had been involved in an extramarital relationship. She was afraid that if she forgave him that he would then think that it was okay for him to have an affair in the future. So she held on to her anger long after his affair had ended and ultimately nourished the disconnection she felt in her marriage.

It is crucial to remember that when you forgive you are freeing your heart and mind from thoughts that result in on-going pain and disappointment. It is through the practice of forgiveness that you expand and deepen your capacity to give unconditional love, compassion and kindness to all beings.
During this month make a forgiveness list. On your list include who you are forgiving, what you are forgiving them for and what you want to be giving them instead of your fury, anger and resentment. Then take action to reflect your commitment to be for giving love, compassion and kindness.

Judgments. Judgments are a reminder that I am forgetting the presence of the divine in all of creation. Making judgments is a function of your ego-mind that divides and separates. When I see all of creation with the sense of wonder that I feel in the presence of a newborn, seeing the full moon rise on a dark night, listening to the sound of the ocean as it meets the shore, I then nourish my capacity to give and receive love. So, during this month say, "Namaste," aloud or silently, whenever your greet someone – including when you see yourself in the mirror. This ancient Sanskrit word means: I bow to the divine in you. (Click Here to see a Namaste Video)

What you are for giving is a choice. While you may feel helpless and powerless in the face of emotional misery, pain and suffering it is important to be aware and remember that all of your experience is based on your point of view, your beliefs, your expectations and your judgments. When you are awake to what you’re thinking and feeling you can then choose the thoughts that bring peace to your mind, love to your heart and kindness to your actions. So, during this month say aloud each morning, I choose to be for giving love, compassion and kindness. And during the day, if you notice yourself feeling angry, agitated, worried or miserable again declare, I choose to be for giving gratitude, love, compassion and kindness - then notice the impact of your choice.

Explore Forgiveness further with The WITH Forgiveness ~ Are You Ready? E-Workbook by Susyn Reeve & Sheri Rosenthal